Baby products · babywearing · motherhood · Review

Love for Babywearing

A lot have been heard, written and spoken about baby-wearing already and so it needs no introduction here. As a millennial mom, we do have access to a lot of information online and otherwise too. Nevertheless I am going to be giving you a gist of what babywearing is, its benefits and a little more about my favorite  carrier too.

I would start by saying babywearing is an art by itself. An art of carrying your new born to toddler securely and comfortably on you and going about your everyday chores hands free. It has , is and will be a savior for a lot of moms/ dads during the initial stages of parenting  from sleepless nights, colic babies, teething, general toddler tantrums, cranky toddlers to vaccine visits( of course the difficulty continues later too  but hey you sort of get used to it 🙂 )

The benefits of baby wearing is not only making you hands free but the list just only starts there.

*Healthwise, it promotes better digestion during the early stages

*It helps in promoting attachment parenting which in turn has a lot of benefits. More on this in my next blog may be

*Babies sleep well and less fussy

*Helps in steady weight gain in preemies too and promotes some crucial developments for them

*Helps/promotes in cognitive ans social skills as they hear/ observe us.

For MOMS:

*Breastfeeding made easy in public ( wear them and nurse them)

*The weight of the baby is evenly distributed and hence less pressure on the spine

*Walk more and hence chances of loosing weight

*If you ,like me don’t like strangers grabbing/touching/lifting your baby, baby wearing helps you in that too!!Keeps them close.

But all these comes down to choosing the right one. Not all products available on the market are ergonomic. There are different typea of carrier ranging from full buckles to wraps for the beginners to people who are familiar with wrapping the baby.

I have tried a lot od Indian ergonomic brands and my favourite for now is Kolkol.

My first ever carrier was also Kolkol incidentally, but I had got a meh dai. Its a full buckle meet wrap kind of a carrier and I loved the concept .Unfortunately Tanny didn’t have the patience to hold on until I tie him up,so I had give up. Next i went for a ring sling and stayed with it for a while bedore switching to a couple of more full buckles (from other brands)  which I wasnt very comfortable with. Funally, I thought babywearing isnt for me until I tried Kolkol compact and fell in love with it.

Got one immediately and have been using it ever since.

What I loved about compact is

-True to its name, it is super compact and doesn’t need a lot of space

-The shoulder padding that Kolkol gives is beyond comfort. Its easy on your shoulders and doesnt cause any trouble even during longer hours of using the carrier.

-The waist belt ,which also is a primitive part of the carrier is sturdy and does the job perfectly.

– There are just simple buckles to fasten and easier to use for first timers.

I have also tried Leela ( Kolkol’s newborn to toddler carrier)  which also boasts of similar comfort.

On the whole and since I have been tryimg a lot of other brands too, I can safely say that Kolkol is and will always be my Favourite. Again, this is completely based on my experience .If you still have doubts about  choosing the right one for you, try it before buying it from your local babywearing libraray or Kolkol has an excellent travelling program for moms to try before buying.

Good luck wearing your baby.

motherhood · Womanhood

An ode to single moms living with thier husband!

As  world celebrates the International Women’s day , we the bunch of bloggers have come together with Neha from sharingourexperiences.com , Deepali from myteenytot.com and Anubhuti from criesnlaughter.com to rejoice this spirit of womanhood.

I would like to thank Neha from https://nehajainu.wordpress.com who so kindly introduced me and also welcome Simran from seamlessymphonywho will be joining us tomorrow! Go give them a thumps up.

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When I was in my tweens and twenties, I was super judgmental about a lot of things and one among them was DIVORCE. I used to think people with fickle minds and stubborn asses were the only ones who were divorcing left right and center and that too after a baby! How could people be so cruel.

But now that am older and wiser and understand the nuances of life to a better extent, really applaud those courageous souls who have had the balls to take a better decision and didn’t just bend the way society asked them to!Rather they wanted to live their life thier way! I sincerely dedicate this women’s day to single moms! I have come across a lot of phataka moms doing a great job.

And am really glad that our society is moving towards an open mind for women who dare to face life single handed my with a baby. Not only a baby but also household and an excellent career alongside! Kudos to the women!

I guess childbirth gives you a lot of inner strength and confidence that no other experience can give. It gives you an insane power.

This aside now, let’s come talk about something that more than 70% of the households face, Single moms living with their husband or in laws. Yes, am talking about #soloparenting, us women who live with our husband / in laws but still get no required help for varied reasons.
1.No time.There are some genuine men who struggle to find time. And then there are others who try to find more excuses.
2.Doesn’t know to take care , cause he is such a spoiled brat.
3. Always traveling for work. This lot of men are the pitiest.
4.Because he could be a fat head who thinks its a women’s duty.
5. Not set his priorities right.

And so many more.
How do you tackle life with a tiny little hand tugging at you every single minute!?
Well, patience is the only trusted and tested way!

1.Try and loosen up a little bit by putting on loud music on your headphones and zone out
2.Talk to your husband, chances are, he thinks you are handling everything yourself really well and wouldn’t know that help is required.
3. Ask for help in politely or slyly (whichever best suits your partner)
4.Dont ever self pity! It’s the worst kind of pity.
5. Keep insisting about dad and baby bond and how good it is in the longer run whenever you get the chance.
6. Make sure you leave them both alone for atleast 30 mins a day
7. Don’t neglect him, make sure you do everything you used to do before the baby came in ( like cooking special meals, etc) . I know it’s tedious but try and do OPOS. A lot of recipes are available online.
8. Last but not the least, don’t hesitate to ask for help when and if required.

Hope this helps you guys! Is there something that you would like to add? Do let me know! Good luck!

Also adding a few lines here with respect to women who struggle ! We , as a fellow women/ mom should understand and help each other rather than start judging ! Somewhere someone once wrote that women are women’s worst enemies. I genuinely think our generation has walked past this and the upcoming ones will not be !

Labour and delivery · motherhood

How Motherhood changed me?

It has been a rollercoaster ride , the past one year! Actually If I take pregnancy into account, 2 years! But if i have to relive and alter it, I wouldn’t want it any other way. That’s what Motherhood does to you, isn’t it?

Every mom is a hero in her own right. Fighting the struggles she has to go through.

My journey to the person i am now started  soon after i heard a little wail on the 4th of October early in the morning! The first wail and the first touch! (Not being melodramatic here).

So, whats changed?

Earlier,i would always shy away from grown up conversations/ arguments. Always taking a back seat while the real grown ups did all the talking and solving. Never wanted to grow and never will. So from a happy go lucky child to a responsible person, Motherhood changed me or should i say enhanced me quite a bit.

My baby also gave a second chance to my own childhood and so we started our journey together

*Motherhood taught me to handle poop, burp,pee and vomit all in a go and being grateful for all this coming out of the little human and a silent prayer that it isn’t all coming together.

*Patience has become my new best friend, in spite of my ear drumming with constant wails ,things shattering, whistling cookers and dirty laundries

*Motherhood taught me to not cringe at my own reflection( both shadow and on the mirror). The little jingles on my love handles and boobs almost saying hello to my tummy! But those adoring eyes and a peck on my cheek tells me that i am the most beautiful mom through my son’s eyes!

*Motherhood did open one more bigger hole in my eyes! (pun intended) !When something happens to somebody else’s baby, tears just wont stop!

*Getting paranoid by the minute! Sometimes i even touch his little nose to see if he is still breathing!

*Hey,it also made me a pro googler! Ask me anything! I swear to give you an answer in 2 mins 🙂

*Motherhood also gave me super powerful instinct! I can smell something is fishy miles away!!

*MOtherhood gave me super powers like running fast to catch baby before taking the fall or swatting the mosquitoes!

*Mherhood made me appreciate a lot of things my mom does for me

*Most of all Motherhood made me a more compassionate person

*On a last note, Motherhood gave me a new wardrobe,a penchant for DIY activities, ability to do everything in one hand and a few dimples on the skin 🙂

Am indebted to Pooja Kawatara for giving me a chance to participate in this Blog Train!This post is part of the Blog Train started by her.Check out her blog here for more details.

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I would also like to thank SumiraBhatia,a supermom and fellow blogger for introducing me and would like invite the super talented Elina of Momfunda fame ,a nutritionist,PHD student and a mommy blogger to hop on this train to share her wonderful journey MOtherhood. Check  out her blog here

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