As world celebrates the International Women’s day , we the bunch of bloggers have come together with Neha from sharingourexperiences.com , Deepali from myteenytot.com and Anubhuti from criesnlaughter.com to rejoice this spirit of womanhood.
When I was in my tweens and twenties, I was super judgmental about a lot of things and one among them was DIVORCE. I used to think people with fickle minds and stubborn asses were the only ones who were divorcing left right and center and that too after a baby! How could people be so cruel.
But now that am older and wiser and understand the nuances of life to a better extent, really applaud those courageous souls who have had the balls to take a better decision and didn’t just bend the way society asked them to!Rather they wanted to live their life thier way! I sincerely dedicate this women’s day to single moms! I have come across a lot of phataka moms doing a great job.
And am really glad that our society is moving towards an open mind for women who dare to face life single handed my with a baby. Not only a baby but also household and an excellent career alongside! Kudos to the women!
I guess childbirth gives you a lot of inner strength and confidence that no other experience can give. It gives you an insane power.
This aside now, let’s come talk about something that more than 70% of the households face, Single moms living with their husband or in laws. Yes, am talking about #soloparenting, us women who live with our husband / in laws but still get no required help for varied reasons.
1.No time.There are some genuine men who struggle to find time. And then there are others who try to find more excuses.
2.Doesn’t know to take care , cause he is such a spoiled brat.
3. Always traveling for work. This lot of men are the pitiest.
4.Because he could be a fat head who thinks its a women’s duty.
5. Not set his priorities right.
And so many more.
How do you tackle life with a tiny little hand tugging at you every single minute!?
Well, patience is the only trusted and tested way!
1.Try and loosen up a little bit by putting on loud music on your headphones and zone out
2.Talk to your husband, chances are, he thinks you are handling everything yourself really well and wouldn’t know that help is required.
3. Ask for help in politely or slyly (whichever best suits your partner)
4.Dont ever self pity! It’s the worst kind of pity.
5. Keep insisting about dad and baby bond and how good it is in the longer run whenever you get the chance.
6. Make sure you leave them both alone for atleast 30 mins a day
7. Don’t neglect him, make sure you do everything you used to do before the baby came in ( like cooking special meals, etc) . I know it’s tedious but try and do OPOS. A lot of recipes are available online.
8. Last but not the least, don’t hesitate to ask for help when and if required.
Hope this helps you guys! Is there something that you would like to add? Do let me know! Good luck!
Also adding a few lines here with respect to women who struggle ! We , as a fellow women/ mom should understand and help each other rather than start judging ! Somewhere someone once wrote that women are women’s worst enemies. I genuinely think our generation has walked past this and the upcoming ones will not be !